The quality or state of being consuming; the intensity with which something engages one's attention.
From consuming (adjective) plus -ness (Old English suffix forming nouns of quality). Describes the abstract quality of absorption or intensity.
The phrase 'the consumingness of grief' captures something that simpler words can't—not just that grief is intense, but that it actually burns away your other concerns and consumes your mental resources.
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