Fraternizing

/ˈfrætɚnaɪzɪŋ/ verb

Definition

Spending time with someone as a friend or equal, especially someone you're not supposed to be friendly with.

Etymology

From Latin 'fraternus' (brotherly), related to 'frater' (brother). The word originally meant to treat someone as a brother, then came to mean socializing informally.

Kelly Says

The military got really upset about soldiers 'fraternizing with the enemy' because brotherhood—literally what the word means—was considered dangerous when it crossed political or national lines, showing how language reveals what societies feared.

Ethical Language Guidance

Gender History

Historically applied asymmetrically: women's socializing with men coded as sexual or morally suspect; men's socializing neutral. Military/institutional contexts enforced rules against officer-enlisted 'fraternization', with harsher penalties for women.

Inclusive Usage

Use 'socializing', 'associating', or 'collaborating' for neutral interaction; specify context when hierarchy or power imbalance exists.

Inclusive Alternatives

["socializing","associating","collaborating"]

Empowerment Note

Women's right to freely associate has been historically restricted under fraternization rules; gendered enforcement reflects deeper control patterns.

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