excessively particular or fussy about choices
from pick + -y, meaning 'inclined to pick and choose'
Picky people PICK-Y everything apart until it's perfect!
Applied disproportionately to women (vs. 'discerning' for men); historically dismissed women's preferences as neurotic fastidiousness rather than legitimate standards.
Use 'selective,' 'discerning,' or 'having clear preferences'—language that respects judgment without diminishment.
["selective","discerning","particular"]
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