Selfishness

/ˈsɛlfɪʃnəs/ noun

Definition

The quality of being concerned only with yourself and not caring about other people's needs or feelings.

Etymology

From 'selfish,' which combines 'self' (Old English 'self') and the suffix '-ish' (meaning having the quality of), plus the noun-forming suffix '-ness.' The concept became more common in English during the 17th century as individualism grew.

Kelly Says

Psychologists call selfishness an evolutionary holdover—our ancestors who prioritized their own survival lived longer—but humans are actually uniquely wired for cooperation, which is why pure selfishness often backfires socially.

Ethical Language Guidance

Gender History

Gendered criticism: women labeled selfish for boundary-setting or ambition; men for same behavior labeled assertive. Language patterns reflect unequal moral standards.

Inclusive Usage

Specify behavior rather than character. 'Prioritizing self-interest over group needs' is clearer and gender-neutral vs. 'selfish.'

Inclusive Alternatives

["self-prioritization","boundary-setting (if positive context)","prioritizing individual need"]

Empowerment Note

Women's self-advocacy historically pathologized; reclaim boundaries as healthy.

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