Tend

/tɛnd/ verb

Definition

To tend to something means to take care of it or look after it. It can also mean to usually behave in a certain way over time.

Etymology

From Old French *tendre* or *tendre vers* meaning 'to stretch toward', from Latin *tendere* 'to stretch, extend, aim'. The idea of 'stretching toward' became 'leaning toward' or 'being likely to'.

Kelly Says

When you 'tend' to something, you’re literally 'stretching yourself toward' it. And when you 'tend to be late', your behavior is leaning or stretching in that direction again and again.

Ethical Language Guidance

Gender History

Care verbs like 'tend' have been disproportionately applied to women, reinforcing expectations that women should tend children, homes, and emotions as unpaid or undervalued labor. This shaped perceptions of who is 'naturally' suited to caregiving.

Inclusive Usage

Use 'tend' for care work across all genders; avoid implying that caregiving is inherently women's work.

Inclusive Alternatives

["care for","look after","maintain","be inclined to"]

Empowerment Note

Women have long organized to have tending and caregiving work recognized as skilled labor, not just 'natural' female duty.

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