Torment

/ˈtɔːrmɛnt/ (noun), /tɔːrˈmɛnt/ (verb) noun, verb

Definition

As a noun, it means severe physical or mental suffering. As a verb, it means to cause someone to suffer greatly, especially over a long time.

Etymology

It comes from Latin 'tormentum', meaning 'twisting' or 'torture', from 'torquere' meaning 'to twist'. The idea was that intense pain felt like being twisted or stretched.

Kelly Says

Torment and torture share the same 'twisting' root, showing how physical pain and emotional pain got linked in language. When someone says 'I’m tormented by this decision', they’re borrowing the feeling of being physically twisted for an inner struggle.

Ethical Language Guidance

Gender History

Language around torment has sometimes been gendered in narratives that eroticize women’s suffering or trivialize harassment as playful torment. Women and gender minorities have often had their experiences of torment, especially in domestic or workplace settings, minimized in language.

Inclusive Usage

Avoid romanticizing or sexualizing someone’s torment, especially when referring to women or marginalized groups. Use clear terms like “abuse,” “harassment,” or “violence” when appropriate instead of softening them as mere torment.

Inclusive Alternatives

["harass","abuse","persecute","cause distress"]

Empowerment Note

Survivors, many of them women, have pushed for language that accurately names torment as abuse or harassment, influencing legal and social recognition.

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