To behave is to act in a certain way, especially according to rules or expectations. It often means to act politely or appropriately in a situation.
“Behave” comes from “be-” (a prefix meaning thoroughly) plus “have,” originally meaning to conduct or carry oneself. It shifted from “to have oneself” to “to act in a certain manner.”
When adults say “Behave yourself,” they’re literally saying “Have yourself in a proper way.” The word reminds us that behavior is something you “carry” around and can choose to adjust, not just something that happens to you.
‘Behave’ has often been used to police the behavior of girls and women more strictly than boys and men, especially regarding modesty, sexuality, and deference. It has appeared in educational, religious, and domestic contexts to enforce gendered norms of ‘proper’ conduct.
Use ‘behave’ neutrally across genders and be cautious when telling individuals or groups to ‘behave,’ as it can echo controlling or patronizing tones. Prefer describing specific behaviors rather than imposing vague standards of ‘good’ behavior.
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Note that women and gender-diverse people have challenged restrictive behavior norms in social movements, education, and law, expanding what is considered acceptable conduct.
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